For many women struggling with infertility, Mother’s Day is filled with tears and personal heartache. While the rest of the world seems to rejoice in their fertility, you were wallowing in your own self-pity counting up the total number of days you have been on this journey. If that was your experience this year, you may be navigating an emotional hangover now. Here are three tips to help cure it.
- Detox your brain – No doubt you had a lot of thoughts running through your mind on Mother’s Day. Many things that seemed true, but were also very painful things to tell yourself. Take out a piece of paper and write them all down – every last word, every last thought. When we take the time to write down what it is what we are thinking and then go back and read it, only then we can see what we are allowing our brains to do unsupervised. Knowing what thoughts you allowed your brain to attach to will help you see how to let them go if they are not serving you.
- Feel (don’t eat) your emotions – When we are feeling negative emotions we often make choices to eat things that we think will comfort us. Pay particular attention to how you fuel your body today. Are you making choices based on your health or are you making choices to numb your emotions? Many times when we are feeling a negative emotion we choose to numb that experience by eating rather than feeling. While this works temporarily, the long-term effect of this does not serve you at all. Remember, feelings are just vibrations in your body caused by your thinking. They are completely harmless if you don’t act on them. I can teach you how to process them.
- Decide for yourself – Mother’s Day is a holiday honoring motherhood that is observed in different forms throughout the world. There is no right or wrong way to celebrate it. You get to decide what it means to you. Mother’s Day will come around again next year. You can decide now what you want that day to be like for you instead of waiting to see what unfolds. It could be a day you give extra love and respect to your own mother. It could be a day just like every other day without any special fanfare. You decide.
If you are navigating an emotional hangover after Mother’s Day and need help getting through it, reach out to me for a free 25-minute strategy session.