If becoming a mother seems as impossible to you as climbing Everest, you are likely harboring some obstacle thoughts that aren’t serving you.
When mapping out the goals in your life, there is where you are now and where you want to be. The steps in between are where all of the growing takes place. If you are among the one in eight women who have a hard time getting pregnant, then your path to motherhood is likely going to look different than most people you know. That means you are going to have to show up differently to meet the challenge. You are going to have many small goals on the way to the big goal: motherhood.
As soon as we set any kind of goal in our minds, our brain will move in with thoughts to tell us why it won’t work. That’s its job. It will present all of the obstacles that stand in the way of you achieving that one thing you are after. These are obstacle thoughts. An obstacle thought is any thought that produces a result in contrast to what you want. They are good because they help us sort out the areas where our fear and doubt are hiding.
But the biggest obstacle thought I see my clients present over and over in many small situations with the “I can’t do this” mantra.
I can’t change the way I eat.
I can’t give myself a shot.
I can’t decide what to do next.
I can’t do this.
Every sentence that begins with I can’t serves as an obstacle thought in your journey to motherhood. You need to look at that obstacle thought, see that it can be turned
into a strategy that then you can implement in terms of achieving your goal.
Rather than being a roadblock obstacle, every situation where that comes up can be turned into a strategy to overcome. Every obstacle is just a stepping stone to your goals. It is essentially the road map you need to follow to get the thing you are after.
You will always seek out more and more evidence to support an obstacle thought. Your brain will want to prove that it can’t do something because you are scared or doubtful about that one thing. Pay attention to when it does that and then recognize what is happening. It is meant to show you obstacles, but it is up to you to turn them into strategies to keep going.
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