Ep #8: Riding The Emotional Roller Coaster

The ups and downs of infertility can feel like an emotional roller coaster ride. Fluctuating back and forth between the highs and lows on the path to motherhood can leave you feeling exhausted and even sore from the emotional whiplash you undergo.

The good news is that you don’t have to keep getting tossed around every month. This episode explains how to ride the emotional roller coaster of infertility and not let it control your life.

 

What You Will Learn
  • How emotions fluctuate during infertility
  • Where emotions come from
  • What you can do to not feel stuck on the emotional roller coaster
  • How to take control over your emotional life

 

 

Ep #7: Powerful Questions

Powerful Questions

The infertility experience is a constant quest for answers. With thousands of thoughts flowing through our brains every day we need a way to direct what we are thinking. Questions help us do that and are how we tell our brains what to focus on. If you want to get to the best answers for your situation and life, you need to ask powerful questions that will prompt your brain to discover the answers for you.

One phrase that can block answers from coming to you is ‘I don’t know.’ By telling this to yourself you are blocking the answer from coming to you. Instead of ‘I don’t know’ shift into telling yourself, ‘I’m learning’ or ‘I’m figuring it out.’ This allows space for you to access the answers your brain can offer up and doesn’t block the wisdom you are capable of creating in your life. 

Answers will only be as good as the questions that prompt them. Many times we pose disempowering questions to ourselves and expect great answers. Disempowering questions include ‘Why is this happening to me?’ and ‘When will this be over?’ Questions like that don’t tap into your empowering beliefs about the future. You can decide if a question is empowering to you and if not, change it. 

If you want great answers, you must ask great questions. When you are inquisitive you can help you brain focus on what to think. Most of us don’t deliberately choose what we are thinking. 

Feelings are signals for us to find out what we are thinking and just becoming aware of our thoughts is hugely helpful. The best question to ask that will uncover how you really think about something is ‘Why?’.

Asking high quality questions will help you get to high quality answers. Don’t be afraid to let your brain tackle questions that initially seem complicated or uncomfortable. Growth is in the difficult parts. 

 

What You Will Learn
  • The power of having your brain answer questions. 
  • What stops your brain from producing answers. 
  • How to ask high quality questions.
  • The most powerful question you can ask yourself. 

Ep #6: Mentality Choices

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Mentality plays a huge role in the success of achieving your goals. Understanding which mentality you are carrying around with you is important to uncover where your mindset might be hindering your progress. This episode addressed the mentality choices available when dealing with infertility. 

Mentality comes from the thoughts running through our heads. Sometimes we are aware of them and other times we are not. There are three mentality types that play out with infertility. 

The most common mentality with infertility is the victim mentality. The entire infertility industry thrives on promoting this way of thinking. It gets perpetuated by blaming someone else for the way you feel. This could be blaming a coworker for making you feel sad after she announces her pregnancy or blaming a fertility clinic because the price of treatment is a stretch for your budget. All of these scenarios place you into the victim mentality by recycling the same thoughts that outsource the way you feel. When you look to other people to decide how you feel, that is the victim mentality. It is essentially giving them all the power for how you feel emotionally during the experience of infertility. 

The second mentality is the hero mentality. When you adopt this way of thinking you take reasonability for the way you feel 100% of the time. You understand that your thoughts create you feelings and lead to your results. People operating int eh hero mentality feel empowered in their lives because they know that no one else is responsible for the way they feel. 

The third mentality is the understudy mentality. This is when someone is learning the tools of mind management and learning how to implement them in their lives but hasn’t fully stepped into hero mentality. This a very common mentality for people who begin working with a life coach and doing thought work for mind management. 

Enrollment is now open for the spring for the Mindset To Motherhood coaching program. To apply for an opportunity for one-on-one life coaching for infertility support go HERE

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
  • The role mentality plays with success during infertility.
  • How the victim mentality is perpetuated.
  • Why focusing on your mentality and mindset is valuable.
  • Why you need to understand which mentality you possess now and how it is impacting your progress..