Infertility took all of my creative energy out of me. I meant it. All of it. During the height of my negative emotions I felt like I had nothing left. I stopped pursuing every creative outlet I had. I stopped wanting to create anything. And that left me feeling even more defeated and disconnected with who I was.
Creativity isn’t something that we automatically link with our individual fertility, but it has profound impacts on how we get to motherhood. Let me explain.
If you are facing infertility or anything holding you back from motherhood, you have a problem to fix. Be it with your fertility, your finances, or your relationships – there is a problem that you are stuck on that needs to be solved.
What happens most of the time is we want to outsource the role of problem solver to someone else. We look to our doctors, our employers, or our partners to have the answers and deliver them so that we can have the result we want. It sounds great upfront, but that tactic is going to lead you into more upset and frustration the longer you keep passing the responsibility elsewhere.
Instead, think of yourself as the perfect creative problem solver to figure this out. Yes, you will need help to get to your ultimate result. But, you (and only you) have the creative energy and power to make things happen in your life. No amount of outsourcing that responsibility is going to get you where you want to be. And if your goal is motherhood, you really want to master your role as problem solver for your future family.
Your path to motherhood hinges on your ability to do so. It is relying on your creativity to happen.
When I started investing in my own creative energy sources I realized the only way I would be able to create the family I had envisioned would be if I tapped into my own creative power. That is when things changed.
I had to think differently to create different results in my life. This was hard to do at first after many years in the infertility trenches but once I found a coach that clicked with me, things started shifting. My life coach helped me access the thoughts I needed to become the master problem-solver of my life.
That is when I was able to move forward and onto motherhood.
No one else can get you to the goals you have for yourself in life but you can get there faster with the right combination of coaching and guidance.
As a person that has dealt with infertility on the path to creating my family, much of what I thought about myself and my ability was shaped by what my reproductive system was able to do. So many life opportunities are being presented to you every day. Do you notice them? Are you looking for them? Are you using your creative energy to access them?
This is the foundation work for coaching. Download the Infertility Mental Health Checklist to start doing this work for yourself and accessing your creative energy.
